No one can predict what the future will bring for couples. Even when you are compatible, there are still some circumstances that will tear you apart. Even when love bears children, they are the ones who suffer when things go wrong. It is not just a simple battle of custody and support. 

When pride and ego get in the way, there is more to separation than just coming to an agreement. Making sure that nothing and no one will remind you of your ex is part of the moving on process. This is why, some single moms prefer to have their children use their surname instead. 

Unfortunately, it is not an easy process. In fact, it takes more than a simple affidavit to grant such a request. Under Article 376 of the Civil Code, changing one's surname should have judicial authority.

Republic Act No. 9048 provides detailed information about the correct process of filing a petition. 

Section 3. Who May File the Petition and Where. – Any person having direct and personal interest in the correction of a clerical or typographical error in an entry and/or change of first name or nickname in the civil register may file, in person, a verified petition with the local civil registry office of the city or municipality where the record being sought to be corrected or changed is kept.

In case the petitioner has already migrated to another place in the country and it would not be practical for such party, in terms of transportation expenses, time and effort to appear in person before the local civil registrar keeping the documents to be corrected or changed, the petition may be filed, in person, with the local civil registrar of the place where the interested party is presently residing or domiciled. The two (2) local civil registrars concerned will then communicate to facilitate the processing of the petition.

Citizens of the Philippines who are presently residing or domiciled in foreign countries may file their petition, in person, with the nearest Philippine Consulates.

The petitions filed with the city or municipal civil registrar or the consul general shall be processed in accordance with this Act and its implementing rules and regulations.

All petitions for the clerical or typographical errors and/or change of first names or nicknames may be availed of only once.

Section 4. Grounds for Change of First Name or Nickname. – The petition for change of first name or nickname may be allowed in any of the following cases:

(1) The petitioner finds the first name or nickname to be ridiculous, tainted with dishonor or extremely difficult to write or pronounce.

(2) The new first name or nickname has been habitually and continuously used by the petitioner and he has been publicly known by that by that first name or nickname in the community: or

(3) The change will avoid confusion.

Marriage is a sensitive subject matter that requires concrete answers. It is one of the most common topics being discussed in legal forums. If one has already found a new person to love, long separation does not necessarily nullify marriage because laws still get in the way.  Even if you are separated from your spouse for 10 years, it is not a sufficient ground for annulment. However, long separation will greatly depend on the circumstances. The petitioner is allowed to remarry if the court provides a declaration of presumptive death of the absent spouse. The separation between spouses is referred to as de facto separation. Both parties need to undergo proper procedure to nullify marriage. There are different ways marriage can be nullified: annulment, presumptive death, declaration of nullity and recognition of foreign divorce.

Article 83 of the Civil Code states:

“ Art. 83. Any marriage subsequently contracted by any person during the lifetime of the first spouse of such person with any other person other than such first spouse shall be illegal and void from its performance, unless:

(2) The first spouse had been absent for seven consecutive years at the time of the second marriage without the spouse present having news of the absentee being alive, or if the absentee, though he has been absent for less than seven years, is generally considered as dead and believed to be so by the spouse present at the time of the contracting such subsequent marriage, or if the absentee is presumed dead according to articles 390 and 391. The marriage so contracted shall be valid in any of the three cases until declared null and void by a competent court.”

A married individual who is separated from spouse should also note that legal separation does not allow a person to remarry as the spouses are still considered married to each other. Filing for legal separation is not faster than annulment because the petitioner needs to prove the allegations. There is also a mandatory 6-month cooling off period that must be observed as part of the procedure.

Article 55 of the Family Code outlines the grounds for legal separation:

“ (a) Repeated physical violence or grossly abusive conduct directed against the petitioner, a common child, or a child of the petitioner;

(b) Physical violence or moral pressure to compel the petitioner to change religious or political affiliation;

(c) Attempt of respondent to corrupt or induce the petitioner, a common child, or a child of the petitioner, to engage in prostitution, or connivance in such corruption or inducement;

(d) Final judgment sentencing the respondent to imprisonment of more than six years, even if pardoned;

(e) Drug addiction or habitual alcoholism of the respondent;

(f) Lesbianism or homosexuality of the respondent;

(g) Contracting by the respondent of a subsequent bigamous marriage, whether in or outside the Philippines;

(h) Sexual infidelity or perversion of the respondent;

(i) Attempt on the life of petitioner by the respondent; or

(j) Abandonment of petitioner by respondent without justifiable cause for more than one year.”

There is no substitute for legal advice from an attorney especially when it comes to preparing a will. In fact, a will must not be taken lightly as it is a serious matter. Attempting to write a will on your own is going to be risky and may even result in committing costly mistakes. While you might be vacillating on whether to get an attorney to complete your will or do it yourself, these following reasons might just enlighten you on the importance of an attorney: 

Specific Terms Are Used To Avoid Confusion

Vague terms can wreak havoc on completing your will and you might run the risk of being misinterpreted. The attorney uses a standard language for everyone to understand the content of your will. With the standard language, confusions are prevented and the message is conveyed to your beneficiaries and will executors. 

Error-Free

Homemade wills are less likely to be free of errors because it does not undergo the same scrutiny and examination that it gets when it is done by attorneys. Let’s face it, there are some technicalities involved in completing a will and attorneys are detail-oriented. They know the process of preparing a will, but if you are going to make your own will without seeking help from professionals, you might commit errors that are often difficult to undo. Some of the major errors that you may commit include forgetting to keep your will updated, forgetting to include your sign in the will, adding amendments and many others. 

The Will Is Based On Solid Facts 

Attorneys have undergone extensive training to familiarize themselves with the law’s intricacy. Imagine the time and effort they invested to acquire their title. If you are going to write your own will based on assumptions, there might be some areas that remain unclear to you. There will be questions lingering in your mind and they will remain unanswered unless you decide to get help. Contingencies are covered by an attorney that specializes in will preparation. There will be no confusions and your questions are answered point blank. 

Familiarity With Inheritance Tax and Law

Inheritance law is essential when preparing a will. Since it is governed by Civil Code, everything must be accurate and concise. An attorney can provide the right solutions to various inheritance issues that DIY will preparation may have possibly missed. 

Essentials For Preparing A Will

• It must be properly executed.

The will should include a date and place of signing. There should be witnesses in your presence before signing could take place. 

• The testator must be of legal age.

A testator must be at least eighteen years of age to be considered qualified for preparing a will. 

• The testator must have a sound mind.

It is also important that you are fully aware you are making a will. You should know the names of beneficiaries or descendants. 

• The will must be properly signed.

An unsigned will is considered invalid. With that being said, it is required that you voluntarily sign your will. Alternative provisions will be made if there are some unlikely circumstances that deterred a testator to sign the will such as illness or illiteracy.  

• There must be a clear intention to transfer the property. 

A statement with your intention to transfer the property to specific persons must also be prepared.